What is True Love?

9:16 PM | By ManiKanth Pasunoori
Love is the only thing which touches almost every human being in the world atleast once in their lifetime. There are many definitions for love. Great poets have sung immortal songs and wrote eternal verses in praise of Love. I believe the meaning and value of Love in ones life depends upon their perspective. It surely depends on the situtions and circumstances one faces too, but more importantly on how he/she reacts to them. Iam writing on this topic to share the idea of true love and the myths that lie around it too, as per my knowledge.

[btw, this topic is for those who are settled or matured enough for a permanent relation. Youngsters and strugglers, please read this topic instead : Love Aajkal - What is true Love? ]

Does Love has a reason to emerge? How is Love different from Liking?
Many people say that Love starts without any reason. A parent loves his son/ daughter due to their blood relation. A friend loves another for the qualities he/ she likes in him/her. Basically, there is a reason for love to emerge, it may or may not be realised by the person. When one likes someone due to certain characters such as beauty, talent or their behaviour, that liking ceases once those qualities are lost. But when he/ she loves someone, those qualities no more have much importance, even though they brought them together. Love creates intense feelings which do not depend on anything anymore. A feeling which doesn't change for anything in the world. May be that's the reason people say that "Love is blind" because once we love someone, we no longer see their bad or negative aspects. But, in case, if the love subsides once the characters of our liking are lost, its time to realise that there was no love infact. It was just liking or to be more precise, it was an infatuation.

Qualities of True Love :

1. True Love is eternal. It would not diminish or disappear gradually.
Its most common that during initial days, a person appreciates every aspect of the other. But gradually the person loses interest and sees only the vices or negative aspects after sometime. Its a sign to understand that what they had was just a momentary attraction, but not true love. Sometimes people are attracted to each other due to certain reasons such as physical attraction, behaviour or attitude, like mindedness etc. but they realise after sometimes that they are practically not suitable to live together. One needs to differentiate between attraction and love, else it would only result in a bad relation.

2. A person accepts the loved one the way they are. Never complaining or trying to change the him/ her.
When people are in the initial days, they love meeting and spending time together. But when they have to love together, they have to make many changes for each other. Practially many problems crop up at such times. The diversity which used to fascinate in the beginning appears to be a problem later. If a person has true love, they should be willing to make the necessary changes within themselves for their loved ones and accept the other person the way they are, rather than changing them or forcing them to change as per our convenience. It needs lot of understanding and sacrificing nature for true Love to bloom in life.

3. The Happiness of the loved one becomes more important than our own happiness.
Many people do anything to achieve their love. It is natural to do anything for something we deeply desire. But doing anything for the happiness of other person is a challenge. At times, one may have to do something against their wish for the happiness of other. When there is a conflict between what one wants and the loved one wants, true love is to sacrifice one's wish and do that which gives happiness to the loved one. People those who claim to love the other, but compel them to act as per their wishes or desires need to understand that its selfish love, but not true love.

Above list may be added with more points, but these are the main essence of True Love. Today's generation needs to understand the value of these qualities of True Love. The acid attackers or psycho lovers need to understand that what they have is only attaraction or selfishness. If they truly love the person, they wouldn't do anything against the wish of their loved one. Hurting them or punishing them is beyond imagination. In case, if the someone's loved one feels more happy without him/ her, a true lover should gladly move away, for the happiness of the loved one is more important for a person who has True Love.

Many people are misunderstanding attraction or lust as Love and getting trapped in relations which are becoming a burden throughout their life or leaving a blot on their life. In this generation of movies and tv shouting out more louder than our conscience, in a time where not having a girl friend is seen as a weakness, not dating someone is treated as incapability, its easy to fall in love with something that fascinates a person. Its fun to spend time together and enjoy the adventures. but, for true love to win in life, there are these challenges one need to face, some tough decisions one need to take.

Before coming to a conclusion that one is in love, they need to ask themselves if they can accept the person the way they are, can they do anything for the happiness of the other, can they sacrifice their own happiness for their loved one,   can they control themselves without causing any hurt or trouble to the one they love and can they maintain the same love and caring all their life, irrespective of any situation or circumstances. Love is most divine and the origin of this Earth. Its the force that runs this world, but do not be lead by wrong notions. See if you find those qualities in you towards someone and analyse if the other person could do all these for you. Decide wisely and if n when you find True Love from someone or developed True Love for someone, your life would find its purpose :-) All the best !

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Understanding Education, knowledge and Career

12:15 PM | By ManiKanth Pasunoori
 ... Isn't it the time to think about where we are going and what is the purpose?

Today majority of students are struggling day and night to get a seats in prestigious colleges or universities, so that they can get good percentage and a job in a reputed company. Finally so that they can earn lots and lots of money for themselves and their children.  Again their children would study in school for the sake of getting seats in good colleges, universities, then jobs in companies and this circle goes on  ....Even when it comes to selection of groups / streams or options in higher education, many parents force their children to take the group that has more earning potential in today's market. They fail to understand that their child has to work in that field all their life, sometimes without even being interested in that subject/ field.

 Is the selection of a career only motivated by its potential to earn money?
Doesn't it matter whether the person is interested or not in that work or field? Millions of parents and children are blindly participating in this race for survival, without realising the meaning and use of education or knowledge, without understanding what a career means and what is the means of working somewhere? Many of my students keep asking me which group to opt in engineering or which specialization to take up in MBA etc. I just tell them to understand the meaning of each option, know about the kind of aspects dealt in each field, then think on which field or aspects they would be interested to work all through their life. What kind of work would they do with interest and dedication forever? If they choose a field of their basic interest, they would work effortlessly and would also contribute a lot to the development of that field also.Choosing some field just because there is better pay scale or earning potential is ridiculous.

In the process of interaction with my neighbours, I was speaking with a boy of class X.
I came to know that he was studying daily from morning 4am till night 11pm, includes studying at home, school and tuitions, home tuitions etc. He was spending almost 18 hours a day to study for the so called great challenge of his life so far .. . SSC.  He simply learned because he has to get a seat in a good college, thereby get a good rank in the competitive exams such as EAMCET, AIEEE, IIT etc. He was least bothered what that concepts meant and how or where it is applied in the real life.

Today majority of students are learning their lessons, question and answers, objective, problems etc for the single purpose of gaining marks in some exam.Parents and educational institutions are measuring the efforts by number of hours, rather than the knowledge gained by the student. Education is meant to give us knowledge. The basic aim of a student is supposed to be gaining knowledge, not just for the sake of marks, but for the pleasure of gaining knowledge itself. We need to develop a thirst for knowledge, a scientific temper and a desire to learn more among the students. The more they learn, the more they would understand the world around them. It would help them lead a better meaningful life ! Society need to abstain their stress upon gaining higher percentages, marks or ranks, rather show keen interest in developing the available knowledge and thereby motivate the next generations to gain new knowledge and pursue new concepts, systems and technologies for a better world.

Many parents are forcing their children to take M.P.C. / science groups even though the children are not interested in maths or science, after their 10th class.  They see C.E.C. / arts groups as a subject for dull students. But again that's a wrong notion.Sciences and Arts have their own fields of application and their own branches which are thriving successfully. There are many challenging careers one can opt in Arts groups too.   But biased thinking of some parents and misunderstanding of some sectors is leading to the forcing of students into the fields in which they are not at all interested. That would only result in their failure or would produce a bad workmen in that field. Finally, unable to cope up with the way they have chosen or forced into, they are taking an exit by "committing suicides". There are many opportunities in every field. Let us not see this world with our own limitations and force it on the next generations.


Is it the purpose of education only to gain livelihood or earn money? Is the purpose of knowledge only to equip us to secure higher jobs and salaries? Is the purpose of life only to survive in this world with better financial status? Today many bridges or fly overs fall down due to few engineers who lack proper knowledge, many patients die due to the wrong medication of some ignorant doctors, lakhs of culprits roam about freely due to many lawyers without morals, thousands of terrorists strike the peace in this world due to their immoral character and lack of understanding on the beauty of life and its purpose.

Education should help an individual to become a better person in the first place. Teach them proper values and principles to lead a meaningful life.  Education should inspire them to learn more and create a thirst for knowledge such that they could contribute to the development of our mankind. Education should give the required knowledge to the individual to work efficiently and effectively in their field. Education should be the reason behind the progress of humanity. It should not be the reason for the consistent pressure created on their minds. I request everyone to think on this and speak to the people who lack proper perspective on Education and those who ultimately force millions of students into uninteresting jobs.


Let the children
GAIN KNOWLEDGE not merely Marks
Choose the field of THEIR INTEREST
Work for ACHIEVEMENT not merely for earning Money
become a GOOD HUMAN not just an educated person.


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Our Behaviour can be very contagious !

1:52 PM | By ManiKanth Pasunoori
"Subba  Rao woke up in the morning with a scorn on his face. He was feeling dull and unexcited just like most of his days. He got ready for the office and sat at the breakfast table. He shouted at his wife for making the same breakfast from the past 3 days, that too quite untasty. He scolded her a lot and left to office. His wife was upset and couldn't tolerate the mischief of the children while they were gettingready. She relieved her anger by scolding the children to her heart's content. The children kept a dull and crying face. On the way to school, they found the usual road side dog. They threw stones at the dog to get rid of their frustation. The dog was hit by a stone and became irritated. As a result of this, a man walking in the market was bitten by this dog. He boarded a bus with difficulty to go to the hospital. The bus was filled with people and conductor shouted at everyone for any possible reason. This man bitten by the dog had a quarrel with the conductor. 

This man scolded the conductor a lot for his irresponsibility and inefficiency in his duty. The conductor was very upset. He asked the driver to stop for a tea break, but the driver said that its not the proper place or time. Conductor argued with the driver and called him all the possible names. The driver was so distracted by this argument that he lost his concentration and accidentally hit a car in front of the bus. The Bus driver blamed the car driver and abused him. The car driver in turn went home angrily and shouted on his wife for delaying the lunch. She, being a servant maid, went to her master's house and in frustation cooked a bad meal. The lady /owner of the house was upset by the foul taste of food, but before she could scold, the servant maid left. She shouted on her husband for appointing such a careless cook. The husband had a big argument which became a serious fight at the end. He left to his office very angrily. He found some mistakes in one of the important files. Due to the previous irritation, his anger crossed all the limits and he decided to dismiss/ suspend the concerned employee. He shouted at Subba Rao for his careless work and ordered to terminate his services. How would Subba Rao feel if he knows that his boss' anger and his termination was the result of his own anger towards his wife in the morning ;-)"

Anger, bad temper and rude behaviour can be great demotivators and create more damage than we expect. They have the potential to spoil the day of a person and take away their peace of mind. More importantly, they are very contagious. A person who suffered due to somebody's bad temper would in turn become angry and shout at someone else. It goes on ... just as mentioned in the above story. As its rightly said in many sanskrit and telugu poems, anger is the first enemy of the person. Majority of the crimes in the world happen due to anger and that is often provocated by some bad behaviour on the part of other. Its a common thing these days where two vehicle owners start argument when they come in each other's way. Instead of giving way with a smile, they frown or shout at the other, which would be enough to start an argument. There are many cases when such arguments lead to severe violence and crime. Let's try to avoid that frown on the face, let's take off that expression of a person fed up with the things and the world. It's not going to help us anyway ... Let's release that burden and keep a smile on our face. See how much difference it can make !

Good behaviour is also contagious !  No doubt, even if we are positive with a smile on the face, it would still hurt when someone would stamp our feet in a public transport. but, we would have patience to bear that and excuse the other person. In other case, this may lead to a quarrel if we are irritated and may lead to lot of problem for many many people all the day. The positive approach of a single person can make him and the people around him happy. It would in turn create ripples all around. The whole atmosphere and the surroundings would be joyful and comfortable. We can't avoid external problems or other crisis, but we don't need to create unwanted trouble by being irritated, when its possible to accept things with a smile. Let us try to accept others the way they are. Let us try to understand others point of view with a cool mind. Let us think before we burst out our anger ... believe me, these small changes would make a big difference in our life ! 

Let's try to implement positive behaviour gradually. Say, someone comes in our way on the road from the wrong side, give him/her a smile rather than a frown. Just say "it's ok and give way" rather than shouting "what the hell ru doing?" See the difference in the response of the other person. When some known person drops somethings or causes some little inconvenience to you or things, which couldn't be avoided, try saying "Its alright, I'll take care of it !" See the difference in the way they treat you further. What if you had shown your anger and frustration. It would not reduce your loss or straighten the things, but would create a hostile environment and spoil the relation forever. This life is too small to waste showing anger, frustration and disappointment. Let's try to share happiness, joy and show understanding, care and concern towards others. It would create new friendships, strengthen existing ones, create attachments and affections. It would make you a person people would like to meet, talk and be with. Come .. let us make this world a happy place for us, for our family and friends and for everyone else too ... Finally, its not the situations or the things that make us happy, its our positive outlook and our good behaviour that would bring happiness to us and everyone around us !







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Spiritual : Does God exist and is religion necessary?

7:04 PM | By ManiKanth Pasunoori
Different people have different approach towards God. Some believe God as the reason for their existence and others doubt the existence of God itself. Iam not a prophet to give a conclusion on this controversial issue, but rather wish to share some insights through my personal experiences.

"It was a day of my practical examinations in Intermediate. The record was not yet corrected. The lecturer asked to bring an hour before the exam and he would do the correction. I started from home and boarded the bus. After reaching half way, I realised that I didn't bring the certification page and some other stuff. I had to go back home and take those things. Neither I was before the exam for correction nor at the right time for the exam atleast. I thought that was the worst day of my life. I was an ardent believer of God from my school days and always appreciated his existence. I was not particular about poojas or other formalities, but I had a deep faith in God. I prayed to him all the way requestsing to save me from this catastrophe. It was my policy not to bother God for small things. I never asked him to make me pass or give some materialistic things. I only requested when something was beyond my control. So, I had faith that he would surely consider my sincere request. But there seems to be no solution to this problem or scope to help me as it was already late for exam.

I went inside the college. My heart was throbbing as I came near the laboratory. When I went inside I was surprised to see that my friends were doing practicals in a relaxed manner. I came to know from them that the actual person who was supposed to come for inspecting the practicals decided to send another person in his place for some reason and this another person coincidentally was a good friend of my lecturer. So, both of them went to canteen to share their wonderful memories of their college days. I had plenty of time to get my record corrected and did my practicals successfully. for everyone else in the world, it might be a "coincidence" or a "matter of luck", but for me it's purely the blessings and mercy of the God. 

This is just one example. I had some similar experiences some more times in life. Whenever I pleaded wholeheartedly and surrendered myself sincerely to God, I was helped or saved by the God. I had a belief system I developed by reading some books right from my childhood and my trust in that belief system always strengthened with every test. Therefore, I became a strong devotee to God, not religious though but spiritually I feel close to God. Iam saved some times from road accidents miraculously, many financial troubles just swept away at the last moment, I receieved co-operation and support almost from everywhere I needed. I don't think that I could do all that just by myself. As a saying goes" dharmo rakshathi rakshithaha". I simply believe in God and good deeds and found them much more powerful than any influence of a politician or officials or any other mortals. I niether had to use my friends or my influence in any case nor I had to fight with anyone for something, except request God in some difficult times to give the courage and strength to handle them."

Recently, I was surprised to find that some of my friends, who were very good people at heart and with lot of humanity and helping nature, did not believe in the existence of God. I was almost shocked. When I asked the reason, they had to say that if God exists why so many poor people are suffering? why there are orphans? why crimes, injustice and inequality prevail? genuine questions of course ! I couldn't take out time to share some awareness with them. However, Iam sure they would realise the truth oneday. God has given us a life and many things. He gave us opportunity to experiment, learn, take challenges and grow. I wonder, if we commit mistakes, if we choose a wrong path, if we hurt, trouble each other  ... what part does the God has to play? Say we give a canvas and lots of color to some children. Either they can help each other and paint beautiful pictures or spoil their picture by misusing their colors, sometimes even spoil the others canvas or even damage the canvas of those who didn'tcome yet. Is it the mistake of the supplier if the canvas are spoiled and the colors are wasted? It is upto us how we utilise the given resources. We create our own problems and do the same for each other. Even if ur parents buy u some play items such as cricket bats and you beat each other or hurt each other badly, are ur parents responsible for that? You were supposed to use them for playing rather than fighting.

One more thing, many people oppose God on the pretext that why some people donate so much money or gold to God? Why do they spend so much money for poojas but help no one. It is the personal interest and biased thinking of those people. God never asked them to do that. Their offerings or rituals have nothing to do with the credibility of God. He never expects anyone to give him anything. Infact, he provided us all these things, who are we and what is our position in front of him to give him something? Its just for one's own satisfaction that they do it. Further God never advocated to pray him or praise him in so and so way, do certain poojas, aarthis or perform yagas or other rituals. People have invented them for their own satisfaction either materialistic or spiritual. God is just the supreme power who created everything and he still guides those who believes in him and needs his help or support.

Its no use to perform poojas or rituals to God and be selfish, cunning or involve in crimes outside. The essence of every religion is Humanity and peace. every religion started teaching men to help each other, be kind and considerate and maintain peace. No God asked people to kill each other. Its only some narrow minded people or some with vested interests that use the name of God for their own benefit. Let us not blame God for the mistakes WE do. Let us not criticize for the problems WE create.  It doesn't matter even if we do not pray a single day in a temple or church or mosque ... it would be enough, if we are a human with kind and passionate hearts and help the people around us and do our duty towards humanity in this world. Those who couldn't realise the existence of God unfortunately are like those who are travelling away from light and blame the shadow getting bigger if they go towards light and rather go away as it becomes small. But when we turn around, only then one can understand that a shadow comes only when there is light and as we approach light shadow becomes bigger, but we come into the brightness of light. In that light we can see the many positive things in this life.

My Idea of True Spirit of Devotion :
1. Our belief in God should not depend on the situation or circumstances.
Whether we are in a good position or bad, we should always believe him in the same way. Remembering in difficult times and forgetting after that is a selfish nature found in many. Let's avoid that.

2. Rituals, offerings, ceremonies are not important, but believing 100% in God at all times is of fore most value in the eyes of God.Having Faith at all times brings you close to the supreme power. I believe even the prayers and other rituals have been started for some reason, but lost the soul down the way. I find lot of solcace and peace when I participate in the prayer on thurdays, but doesn't mean God will only bless us if we pray that way. Its for our self satisfaction. Instead of offering material, its more important to offer our heart and soul to the supreme power.

3. One may not perform the procedures of the religion, but grasp the essence of religion. Live a life with good values and treat others as a good human being. That would be of more value in the eyes of God.

4. Our faith in God should not make us dependent or passive. We can't expect God to do everything for us. We should do our every duty and request God to be with us in our efforts.

5. Our belief shouldn't make us weak
Many people pray to God to remove all the problems from their life. One cannot escape problems, they are everywhere. We need to pray to God to gives us the courage to face the problems and the strength  to solve them. After all, problems are the opportunities for us to take up new challenges and realise the true potential within us.

6. Our faith shouldn't make us hate some other's faith.
This is a major problem today. Many people believe in their religion so blindly and upto such an extreme that they become intolerant of other religions. They fail to recognise that all these religions are various ways to reach the same God. There is no use fighting over which path or road we are travelling, so long as our destination is same. Every religion teachers Humanity and tolerance. Hurting or killing others is againts any religion and inhuman.

7. Names are not important but the essence of religion and the values we cultivate are more important.
I find my God in the name of "Shirdi Sai baba". Everyone is free to choose any form for God or even no form but just as a spirit. It doesn't matter so long as we do not give place to blind faith and meaningless practises on the name of religion. Religion is only a user manual to use the varoius resources of our life properly or a route map to reach the destination safely.

8. God is omnipresent. God is everwhere. If we truly believe in him, we can talk to him not matter where we are. We do not necessarily go to a temple, church or mosque. Infact, he is also within our heart. Every individual has a spark of the divine soul. We just need to recognise it, light it and keep the flame of faith glowing inside us, such that it shows us the right direction in every situation and leads us ahead.

To put in simple words, believing always in God and his abundance, thanking him for everything, making good use of the available resources and accepting every situation in life without regret, helping fellow human beings within our limits and leading a peaceful and responsible life are the true tenents of any religion and the real commandements of God !
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Modernization : are we moving ahead?

9:30 PM | By ManiKanth Pasunoori
"Ramu got down from his village bus. This is the first time he is coming to Hyderabad. He was so excited with the feeling of coming to this city. He has often seen beautiful places, restaurants, parks and exciting locations to hang out in the films. His long wish is realised today. He visited some busy centers of the city all the day and was impressed with the charisma of the city life. Beautiful buildings, attractive malls, luxurious hotels, restaurants, cinema halls, super markets and what not ! By night he reached the address given by his villager, who is living in the city from few years.

An auto took him to the address and he was shocked to see that the area was so foul. There were not even proper roads, water filled in the potholes and made the journey a trouble. He wondered if this is also a part of the city. It was just the beginning it didn't take much time for him to realise that people in the city have to compete for everything from drinking water to the parking space. They have to fight everyday for many things starting from cinema ticket to the election seat. They suffer from lack of food to power cuts. No one cared for the other and everyone is concerned with their own work and income. He wondered now if his village life was more peaceful and comfortable than this.

He saw that majority of the people in the area are in search of work or jobs. Many small business were closed and people could rarely manage to lead a decent life. He wondered how the city has TWO extreme contrasts in life style and survival. Great sky scrapers, big shopping malls, luxurious hotels, innumerable vehicles on one side ... shabby houses, dirty lanes, unemployed youth, miserable elders, helpless children on other side. He couldn't understand why Beggars still exist in spite of so much development? He couldn't understand why a person doesn't even find water to drink on one side and someone else is swimming in the pool of champagne on other side. Why so much inequality and imbalance? He couldn't make out anything ...

However, he realised one thing that his village life is much better than this wrecthed city life. He decided to return to his village catching the first bus to his village in the morning. Ramu reached the village but this time with a different outlook. The green grass and lovely trees looked so beautiful, the air smelled so great, the nature was looking at its best. He wondered how he didn't notice all this from so many years. He was happy that he is back to his heaven, where no child is crying for food, no women is uncared for, no youth wasting their muscles and no one is starving for being wanted."

We are progressing rapidly in this emerging world, but at tne same time we are losing many things too. It is time we realise that and think once if it is really worthwhile. On the name of Globalisation, we have invited multinational companies and prospered economically. There is a rise in the national income, but still more than 60% of Indian population are below poverty level, not earning even Rs.50 per day. We have international airports and multi national companies, but people couldn't get enough buses on time. Millions are struggling for proper drinking water and daily needs. we have the branches of every big company of the world, but still millions are unemployed, fighting for survival. Whose income and standard of living is increasing ?

Agriculture is the main occupation of our country, but lakhs of farmers are commiting sucide. Villages are said to be the identity of our country. But only old people are left in the villages and all the youth are moving to towns and cities in search of work or job. Multi national companies no more produce just costly industrial products, they would provide you rice, pulses, vegetables and even a hari cut in air condition. We are happy with the comfort of shopping in A.C. but how many shopkeepers have closed their businesses due to the involvement of capitalists in small markets.
How many artisans, carpenters, tailors, barbers, vegetable sellers and small merchants are struggling for survival. Who would provide them the required livelihood. How can they feed their families?

I can understand that development and progress is essential for a country, but on what basis. Government is blindly becoming a spectator and granting permissions to all kinds of business, as long as they are getting good revenue. They do not bother the counter effects of these businesses on the common man and poor families.
Right from Educational institutions and health facilities to super markets and retail stores, all sectors are covered by the investment of  big corporates.What is the need for an industrial gaint to start a super market or a barber shop? Is that field backward or isn't there anyone providing those services earlier? Isn't there any check on who can do what? If so, all the rich people would invest their money in almost all sort of business and they earn huge profits. They become richer and richer day by day. The middle class and poor people would struggle for existance. Is Democracy giving way to "Capitalism"? Crorepatis invest their money in lands and business, manipulate the markets such that the prices are no more within the reach of a common man. Today a common man only dreams of owning a OWN HOUSE, even buying the food items and gas etc became a difficult thing for a common man. 

Who is responsible for this situation? Do we need to stop the trend of globalisation or does the government need to keep the economy under a check and run it under a controlled environment? India is also a socialist country apart from democratic and republic, as per our constitution. Socialist country is the one which strives for the development of the poor and backward people, which tries to decrease the inequalities in the society by supporting the poor and framing policies that facilitate economical equality and give fair chances of survival to everyone. But are the words in constitution implemened in real time? I wonder how many Ministers and politicians even know the constitution and the ideals of democracy ! Is the government just a spectator in this deadly fight for the survival? Can't WE do anything to reduce or avoid this? Are we so helpless? Are we just spectators in this game show and be satisfied that we are atleast not the victims for time being???

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Society : need to change the system ?

1:35 AM | By ManiKanth Pasunoori
" Manish started his bike and went to pick up his close friends from their room. Three of them zoomed past the bikes and cars like the flash of a lightning. But unfortunately there was a police checking and they couldn't manage to skip that. As usual Manish gave Rs.100 to the constable and managed to get out of it without a heavy challan. His friend asked if it was not immoral to bribe, but Manish thought that there is no moral either in paying the government where politicians loot the same money through various scams.

Manish and his friend went to the M.R.O. (Mandal Revenue Office)for some certificate and Manish needed it urgently. He managed to pay some bribe to the peon and received the certificate much earlier than the supposed time. They reached home and to his shock the power didn't resume even after a cut of 12 hours. He knew that the officials wouldn't do their own duty unless someone bribes them. He sat reading the newspaper and the news of corrupt practices, crimes, scams irritated him. He was disgusted with the state of affairs in the society.

During a chat with his friends in the evening, he began blaming the system. Every person in the system is corrupt. There is no sincerity or honesty left among the officers or politicians. Everyone works for their own profit. No one is concerned of the society or the development of the country. The police, the officers, the leaders, politicians ... everyone of them are corrupt. All such people should be shot dead, but again someone else would replace them. The whole system is corrupt. At last they left the topic and dispersed on a common note that nothing could be done about this. We just have to learn to live with it . . ."

Its a common story with millions of Youth in our country. We find fault with everyone else, but not ourselves. How and where is this corruption born? How does it survive? If a small child doesn't eat food, we tell them that we would buy an ice cream or give some chocolate for eating. If a child doesn't go to shop, we give a rupee or two to persuade. If a student gets rank, we promise a bicycle or even a bike. Who is teaching corruption? Aren't we contributing to the systematic growth of this corrupt thoughts . . . If we want a seat in an institute, we bribe the management. If we want a good position in job, we bribe the employers. If we want to escape from law, we bribe the policeman. If want work to be done sooner, we bribe the staff. When WE DO IT, its reasonable. If a business man wants some favour, he would bribe the leaders. If a big company wants a multi million contract it would bribe the related ministers. Now its not reasonable? IT becomes CORRUPTION? What goes around, comes around. Today we grab the opportunities of some one else thourgh illegal means, tomorrow some one else would do the same with us.

We burn the buses for every possible reason. Who pays for the new buses, government of course ! We even break tube lights or other public property for fun, who pays for that? The municipality, of course ! We destroy the nature, who pays ... not us? We pollute the Environment, who pays ... of course, who cares ! We safely ignore that one day we have to pay for all this. Who is responsible for this poverty, corruption, injustice and all kinds of exploitation?

Its WE, the people. We are responsible for every kind of evil in society, directly or indirectly. We all need someone else to change, but no one has any intention to change themselves. How many of us follow the traffic rules, how many of us pay the taxes promptly, how many of us work sincerely n honestly at work? How many of us give more value to the principles rather than money? How many of us resist injustice? How many of us stand against exploitation? How many of us work for the society? How many of us would DO something for the country? Lets stop blaming the people AROUND us and ask these questions to the person inside us.

We still compromise OUR RIGHT TO VOTE for a mere 100 or 500 rupee note or a biryani packet n a packet of liquor ! We ignore our 5 years of governance to an entertainment of few hours. We vote for a party or leader being carried away by the name, without finding out the facts. We sit and watch crime news everyday and we are glad that we are not the victims .... We are so responsible and we talk of CHANGING THE SYTEM !

Change should come from SELF !Society, country and its system all are made by its people. If WE change, then gradually the whole system would change. Drops of water together make an Ocean. Do not doubt if the country would develop if a single person would change. Atleast some percentage of development would be there. If a seed had wondered, if it could give rise to such a big tree, there would never had been a single tree or any great forests in this world. Lets stop complaining.  Lets do OUR every DUTY honestly and sincerely. Let us be a sincere student, a honest employee, a responsible citizen, a compassionate neighbour. That's what is called as "Social Responsibility". Let us first be the Change and then try to change the things around us. If every one of US could Change, it won't take much time for the country of our dreams to become a reality. I eagerly look forward for that day ... are YOU interested too?



My Salutes to the great patriots and leaders
who have sacrificed everything in their life to realize this dream of a glorious Nation !


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 Introspection : thinking of Humanity !

Education - making of man or a machine ?

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Our Life : missing today for a distant tomorrow

12:09 AM | By ManiKanth Pasunoori
"Amar suddenly came back to this world awakened by the horns coming from the vehicles behind him in the traffic. For a while, he was lost in the thoughts of the meeting he is going to attend in an hour. He had worked late night on the project file to make it appealing to the clients and started early morning to reach the city for the meeting. He has been doing this for a while now. Majority of the days, he went out of the house before his children woke up and came back after they slept. But Amar was happy because he is able to give everything his children need. What more could they wish for !

Several years went on Amar is the general manager now. His job desciption, professional and financial status changed. He got better jobs, better pay, better facilities etc but there is a similarity from the year he joined in the job till now after 30 years. He has been very busy on the majority of the days. Now he got his son married and they settled in another city, where his son got a good job in a reputed company. His daughter is married to a NRI and settled abroad. Now he thought of relaxing and spending time with his family. But only he and his wife were left. He wondered how soon the children grew up and when they completed their education and got married etc. Time moves on so fast he thought.

In the evening, while pondering over the same topic, he felt inconvenient to remember that he hardly spent an hour or two with his children in so many years and rarely participated in their birthday celebrations or school/ college functions. He didn't even celebrate his marriage day in this 30 years. Hardly have they been on any long vacation. When he thought critically, he remembered that he didn't even remember when he ate heart fully and peacefully last time. Today he has enough money to buy anything they wish to ... but he couldn't get back the lost time. He can afford to buy the best dishes or delicacies for them, but he is a diabetic and his wife has ulcer. They have everything now, but left with nothing. He thought that he is giving his children everything they need, but now he realised that he missed to give the love and affection of the father which they needed the most. Suddenly it struck to him as if all his life just passed by and he didn't LIVE it meaningfully. Amar wished if only he could go back in time, he would undo many things and Live a life where there are loads of memories to cherish in future.

He was repenting for the irreparable loss, when he heard the office secretary calling him. He raised his head and looked at her. He was surprised for a while to see that the secretary is still young after 30 years. She gave a confused look seeing his response and reminded him "Amar, Iam afraid you are getting late. you need to give the presentation of our project to the clients." He suddenly saw the calendar on the wall. It was dancing in all its glory showing the Year 2010. Thank God ! He took a nap after reaching the office and before giving the presentation. He was dreaming a life after 30 years in this half an hour break. His heart filled with happiness, excitement and delight. He got up and thanked the secretary and said to her "Today its my son's birthday and I need to host the party. Company can get another person to give the presentation, but Iam the only Father to my son ! thanks and bye"


Well, majority of the people are not as lucky as Amar. By the time people realise what they are missing, lot of valuable years in their life are lost. Many people spend day and night to get maximum marks or get a good job or promotion later, earn more profits etc etc. In this quest they often ignore the pleasures of life.Small things which we often neglect add flavour and colour to our life. They show the value of life and leave some memorable moments for future.

When was the last time you laughed happily? When was the last time you talked to your close friend openly? When was the last time You met the people close to You and shared the joy and sorrows of each other? When was the last time You slept without thinking how or what to do tomorrow? when was the last time You had a memorable moment with your family? When was the last time You made your parents smile? When was the last time you shared time and happiness with your children? When was the last time you saw sunrise or sunset? When was the last time you happily drenched in rain? When was the last time You had sip of tea or coffee listening to your favourite song and forgot the whole world? When was the last time YOU LIVED YOUR LIFE ????

Life goes by so fast. There are many requirements, necessities, challenges, troubles and lot more demanding from us our time and efforts. Its necessary to work on them, but again its also important to take out some time to LIVE THE LIFE the way You like it. If you can't find time for Yourself and Your family, friends, near n dear, whom are You living this life for? After achieveing everything also, we would be left with nothing. Never wait for tomorrow to come. If you have a hobby, pursue it now, have some ideas to implement, begin today. If you wait to do it after sometime, that time is never going to come. We are busy from our birth to death. If we have to do something for us and our people, we need to find time now. If we can't find time today, chances are probably we can't even find it later . . . It is said "plan as if you'll live forever, but LIVE as if you'll die tomorrow !"

At this moment ... I remember the introduction lines from the film "Lage Raho Munnai Bhai" in Hindi ...

"Shaher ki is daud me daud ke karna kya hai?
Jab yehi jeena hai dosto to phir marna kya hai . . ."




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Introspection : thinking of Humanity !

2:19 PM | By ManiKanth Pasunoori
"Raman is busy getting ready to office. He couldn't find his wrist watch and one of his office file. He shouted out to his wife. He grabbed the watch and file from his wife and stood impatiently as his children are still not ready to go to school. He was getting late to office. Later, as he was going down the steps, he saw his neighbour, an old man trying to bring the heavy rice bag upstairs all by himself. Raman chose to stay out of the helping business. He said to himself that there would be someone else who is not as busy as him and they could help him.

He dropped his children at school and while he was about to move, he saw a young lad fall down at the gate. He assured himself that he is too busy to go and help this kid. He went to office and the day went on. At last he left the office with a sigh of relief. On the way to home, he finds a man hit by a car. He is lying on the road and blood is oozing out of the wound on his leg. Raman wished to help this man, but he had some work to do at home. he thought there would be someone else who is not as busy as him to help this man. Why does he need to leave his works for taking out time to help others?

One day it happened that a drunken driver hit Raman's bike with his lorry. Raman fell on the other side of the road. He inflicted severe wounds and was in a fatal condition. He expected someone to come and help him out, may be take him to a hospital. But surprisingly, so many people passed from there, but no one bothered to stop their vehicle and help this man. Even the passers-by looked at him for so long, but didn't bothered to take him to a hospital. Why would they take the risk and get into some police case for a stranger. Moreover, who has so much time ! Raman waited anxiously, desperately ... only to be disappointed and before he lost his consciousness he thought "may be everyone is as busy as himself and no one is ever so free to help someone else"

It took a long time to Raman to come out of this incident. He understood that everyone in the world is busy and no one is idle. He realized that one need not be free or idle to help someone, but should have willingness, empathy and concern to help others. He was lucky to have been noticed by a school kid who rang up to 108 and ambulance arrived before it was too late. May be Raman would never know that the boy was the same one whom he didn't bother to lift, when the boy fell down at the school gate. I hope the boy would rarely bother if this man helped him earlier or not, in order to help him. After all, he has not yet learnt the ways of this selfish world ... he is still a boy of 5 years. We rarely know if he could retain the same generosity as he grows up into an adult"

Everyone one in today's world is busy in pursuit of their own dreams and busy passing their own lives. Its very rare that people have time to think of others, help others or solve their problems. People even don't bother to give some love and affection to their own family members. We all are already busy in our own world, so why bother about others? where's the time? Consider the same once again .... what if we are on the receiving end? 
We think that why can't someone take out little time to help us? Why can't someone do a small favour? Why no one has any kindness, sympathy or helping nature? Just because they are as busy as anyone else in their own world . . . as it is said - What goes around, comes around !!!

Consider this, take out some time to help someone, gave a smile or a suggestion to someone in need, do something for the benefit of others, just try to make someone happy . . . we would feel more happy than what we were by doing so much for ourselves. Real happiness comes from helping others. As it is said, happiness is in giving, not in taking ! Try to give some happiness to someone today. You need not work very hard for that. We may not realize how many times we neglect our family members, close friends and our well wishers due to some work or other. We always don't need to do a lot, try doing a small favour. Give a smile to a stranger, assure someone in doubt, empathise with someone in trouble, support someone in fear. Try to spare sometime and bring a smile on the face of someone. Take out sometime and think of people around you. See if you can make a small difference in someone's life. may be you can really bring happiness into someone's life by your little acts of kindness .... let the magic work ... Isn't it what we call as "Humanity?"

Still thinking . . . when a crow dies, tens and hundreds of crows come and gather. When an ant finds some food material, it first goes and informs all its team. they work together and share the whole thing equally. When an animal is attacked, all its herd comes to its aid and most importantly an animal of one species rarely kills another one of same species. Even one species do not kill other animal for fun or greed. BUT WHAT ABOUT US? When a fellow man dies or is dying, another man is least bothered. If a man finds some treasure, he will try to hide the truth from all and enjoy the whole treasure for himself. If someone among is attacked, we are glad that it is not me. No animal kills its same species without a serious reason, but we kill every animal and even our own species if necessary. Humans even kill for greed and fun. Animals have so many principles of living together in peace and they have such a good helping and supporting nature. We are such a Hypocrites that we call this kind of character as HUMANITY ! I wonder if we have more animal instincts or animals have more Humanity than us ....

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Education - making of man or a machine ?

2:25 PM | By ManiKanth Pasunoori
" He woke up suddenly from sleep and with some anxiety he looked at the alarm clock that was beside his bed. He looked at it under the light of his bed lamp and gave a sigh of relief to find that the time was only 3 AM. His head was as heavy as holding a mountain, may be due to the work out he did till mid night. He slept for a small nap again, but has to get up at after an hour anyway to attend his coaching.
Today was his big day, his parents asked several questions about his preparation at the breakfast table adding more tension to his mind. He had a do or die situation in front of him. He knew that today was the day which would decide his future.
Little Roshan entered into his classroom with all this thoughts and sat down to write his annual exam. He has to pass this Maths examination with more than 90 marks. He can’t even imagine what trouble would fall on him if he couldn’t.  He shivered a minute remembering the threats he got from his parents and teachers when he got 85 precentage last year in Class I. He has to get 90% above this time in class II, else he couldn’t even survive in home or at school . . . "
I don’t know what happened to Roshan after that ! May be he got that 90% and satisfied his parents and teachers with all his hard work and labour OR may be he ran away from home unable to face his parents and teachers for getting 89% … unmindful of the fact that out there in the world there are bigger troubles to face such as  child labour, human trafficking , forceful begging and a long list of abuses and crime.
 Its common that the readers wish that he would have got that 90% and stayed at home. But how far is this life better than the other counter part? A child of 7 years is forced to study for more than 10 hours. No time to play or have fun, unless its summer vacation. Then too so many coachings, tuitions, summer camps … parents want their children to learn everything from singing, dancing, swimming to cricket and horse riding. They want great marks to show to their neighbours and relatives, they want their child to be the best in everything . . . THEY WANT A LOT AND LOT AND LOT ! but what does that CHILD WANTS ???
Education is a combination of Academics (subject knowledge) and Values (morals and ethics).
Today children are being forced to read, read and re-read to get more marks, but very few teachers and parents are bothered to know how much knowledge the child has learnt from the lessons. They know every formula and definition, but don’t understand the concept. They can answer 1000s of objective questions, but do not realize what the objective behind studying them is? They know the equations, derivations and algebraic expressions, but don’t know how, when and where they can explicitly use them.  We are only at consuming the food up to the limits, but isn’t it necessary to get digested such that it can be useful to our body? Simply getting marks will not help in future unless it is combined with good subject knowledge. It may  matter in today’s world if the marks are 90 or 80 but it would surely matter much more in future, if we understand the subjects and know the concepts or not.
One side we are not sure of the purpose of the Academics we are studying, but on the other side there is no scope today to learn Moral or Ethical Values. Parents earn money by hook or crook to educate their children, they bribe them for every work they say, they give rewards for doing well in exams etc. Most of the schools are also busy in making money that they began ignoring their main purpose itself.
Living in between such kind of parents and studying in such kind of schools, can we expect the children to grow up morally and ethically? I wonder how many today even know what they mean? That is the reason we have doctors who deny to treat a dying patient unless they pay the money, we have scientist who use their valuable knowledge in making dangerous products that even challenge the existence of man, we have lawyers who don’t mind which side they are, as long as they are well paid … so on and on in every field, in every capacity. One of the major setback in today’s world is the way we are giving Education to the next generations. I do not worry much about illiteracy or ignorance they can be dealt with. But what makes me more concerned is the existence of academicians without knowledge and genius without morals.
“We want that education by which character is formed, strength of mind is increased, the intellect is expanded, and by which one can stand on one's own feet” – Swami Vivekananda.

Do we have any answer for this? Last time I heard Literacy percentage in India was 66% by 2007. What would be the percentage of EDUCATED people if we consider the words of Vivekananda as the definition of Education? How many are really educated and are using their education for the benefit of people, society and the country ?? Do we realize what is EDUCATION infact?
Education is said to be man-making …. But today are we making MEN or MACHINES ??? machines that can work for hours and earn profits for the employers, which can earn money for family and for their survival.  I wonder would it be ever possible to teach this machine how to LIVE ?

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Love Aajkal : What is TRUE LOVE?

7:09 PM | By ManiKanth Pasunoori
A cold wind moves past by and rain drops awakes one from the tedium of the work burden. Just as the head is raised ... there comes before him,
a Goddess of Beauty !
as the flowers shower upon her and the wind plays with her hair ... she moves with a charismatic smile and the spectator is dumb with awe .... He is in LOVE with her !
. . .  A typical scene of our Indian cinema ! might have seen this in hundreds of movies . . .

So, is this all about Love? Just a boy/ man seeing a splendid, beautiful girl or a soft natured, docile, the girl-next door seeing a macho hero fighting with some ruffians ... and they fall in LOVE? I wonder if  it is Love or is it only infatuation? How far does the relations based on these infatuations leads to? not too far than the restaurant, cinema or a theme park, except in rare cases.

I wonder what would happen to the boy/ man's love if the girl one day loses her beauty ... may be a victim of some acid throwing maniac, a helpless victim of a road accident or a fire accident. Does the love still exists or disappears with the beauty? What happens if the charming, handsome, macho hero becomes a handicap in a war or an accident or some other trouble? Is this eternal love which was sung by so many lyricts, poets and singers vanish just like that? If it does, is it worth to be called as LOVE?

Many youngsters are wasting their time and careers behind the so-called Love, without even knowing what is it's worth ? Someone would point out that Love is beyond everything else and we can lose anything for that. I agree too … but, before sacrificing our time, studies, career and life .... Let us think of the True Love we have always been receiving from other side. Before giving the largest share of our life to this instant love, isn't it our duty to be answerable to that one as well . . .

Consider if the same person after losing their beauty or charm and strength go to their parents. Would the parents still Love the person the same way. A Mother would love his children irrespective of his beauty, ability, social status, intelligence and everything else. She would love the same way, let whatever happen. She would care for us, though we rarely remember her. She would keep praying for us, long back we’ve forgotten her existence. She would be happy to know that we are safe somewhere, even if she is no more a part of our world. She would not love us for what we become or what we give her ... but just LOVE us for what we are. Parent's love is unconditional. Its pure and permanent. Very few relations in this world are as pure as parent's love.

There is nothing wrong in pursuing this true Love in some relation or the other, but in this pursuit, let us not forget or ignore the same love which we have been receiving even before our birth. It was Mother's day last week and many people celebrated it. But I truly believe everyday is a Mother's day/ Father's day. Let us try to keep them happy. We may not always have to do a lot for this, just spare a little time and enquire about their well being and atleast let them know sometime that We do care for them ...

Friends, before foregoing your studies, career and life for someone u loved ... just think once again ... what is True Love? Is it worth the sacrifice ?? … and what about those, who have been giving this True Love even before our Birth???

Moreover, Life is much more worth than anything else. Everyone of us are born in this world for a purpose. Try to realise your purpose and start moving towards that goal with confidence, commitment and dedication ... who know's, in the same path you may also find your True Love !
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